Sat in my dining room having set up a makeshift workstation for my imminent Skype interview – I feel nervous and this is a very strange sensation to me. It seems that the main reason for this is due to the fact that I am waiting indefinitely. The call is booked in for 10am and I’m still sat here at 10:11. I’m looking at a notebook which has a checklist for today on one side and some ideas about my blog on the facing page. The first entry is ‘Interview@10am’…if I can make it through this then I’ve started the day in a pretty positive way. Continue reading “Why am I nervous?”
“What’s in it for me?” is a mantra which came into existence in Corfu around Spring time 2016. Initially the mantra can seem somewhat selfish, but you need to adjust your position and check again. In order for you to be able to help others and allow them to benefit from life, you need to be benefiting from life yourself.
“The difference between a selfish ‘what’s in it for me?’, and a considered, pragmatic, ‘what’s in it for me?'”
Ask yourself this – how can you donate money to a charity or worthy cause without any coins of your own? Similarly how do you expect to help somebody if you’ve neglected caring for yourself? I have absolute faith that we all have this deep-seated desire, a natural calling if you like, to help one another and that certain individuals on this Earth are simply able to silence this desire – I don’t believe there is such a thing as a bad person and that, again, some people simply learn how to act bad all the time and quiet their remorse to the point where they can (almost) ignore it. Now, it seems logical that certain individuals struggle to strike a balance when it comes to looking after themselves, and helping others.
Stop for a second and think about yourself; does any of this apply to you? Do you block out that voice which calls you to help people? Do you deny yourself the ability to save that little bit for yourself?
The better condition you are in the more you can do to help others.
In the wake of the recent Brexit nightmare which has happened in the UK (the UK voted to LEAVE the European Union and has since seen a huge increase in the number of racist and xenophobic incidences taking place – just in case you may have been living in Sherwood Forest) this seems extremely appropriate – not to say that I am glad that the UK has left the EU so now we can ask “what’s in it for me?” more so that if the racist voters who apparently make up the majority of ‘leavers/brexitters’ would have asked themselves a long time ago “what’s in it for me?” instead of allowing the media to tell them, then they may not have been brainwashed into believing that all of Britain’s problems are a direct result of immigration (what immigration by the way?)…political digressions aside…<ahem>
Treat “what’s in it for me?” as a habitual consideration which you can employ to guard against self-sabotaging.
Rest assured it is not my intention to breed a whole school of selfish people who are willing to do anything in the name of personal gain, I am concerned with those of us making financial sacrifices, expending energy, and surrendering our time for the sake of things which will not serve us in any way, shape or form…ever.
So why not try it out for a day and see what kind of results you get? Perhaps you could test it over the weekend!
This mantra is a reminder, not a weapon.